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What Cravings Teach Us

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Ahhhh….You know what I am talking about here. That insatiable desire for something: food, carbs, salt, sugar, sex, love, or whatever. Its called a craving. And we all have them, but some of us are better at giving into them than others.

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I craved meat and potatoes. WHAT?  I rarely ate meat and potatoes were a treat. But I craved them. My physiology spoke to me through that hormonal change that said, “I want a great steak. And  I want carbs!”. Huh? Let it be said, cravings are certainly NOT just a prego hormonal response…

So why exactly do we crave something? Why is it desirous? Is it biochemical? Is it emotional? Is it physiological? What the heck is happening when we feel that “I need this NOW!” Is it an addiction-response? Yes…and ….no.

Your biochemical body (hormones) signals you to tell you what we are missing. If you keep feeding your body sugar, your body begins to learn to want it–not being able to truly discern or regulate how much is actually “good” for you. It can become addicting.

But what if you are not getting enough of a certain (good) substance (ie. good fat, protein, vitamin  or mineral)? What if you are not receiving the human touch, or affection? How does that deprivation affect your body?

So some cravings can be a signal to your body to tell you what you may be missing ie.. something your body really needs such as nourishing  hormones/emotions/biochemicals which your body desires and needs. You may need to feed these cravings. Your body is calling you out on them. When you don’t give into these needs, your body seeks (unhealthy) substitutes or ways to fulfill the desires which are not always in our best interest (drugs, illicit sex, unhealthy eating and more)…

So how do you distinguish a real (healthy) craving from one which can cause havoc and unhealthy lifestyle practices?

I believe the first and most important step is to get your body into balance, into a state of equilibrium as much as possible.To do this may mean you need to rid yourself of  (or at least minimize) everything artificial or that which your body truly does not need, such as sugars, processed foods, fried foods, salty foods, nicotine, alcohol,  drugs and more..Strive to feel your optimal best–your healthiest.

Observe your body and how you feel for any signs of lack.  What is  your body  (telling your mind) it’s missing (ie. craving) ? Pay attention.

This will be challenging. Your mind-body will cry out to you because there will be various forces that are at work in and around you. Emotional and physiological forces. These forces can be so compelling that they will steer you to make poor choices about food, sex, or other substances which really won’t nourish your body…in fact..it may simply destroy it. These drives for substances/emotions your mind FEELS you are missing may lead you astray. They are powerful. They are determined.

Remember, that “every emotion you FEEL will have a thought and physical sensation” as described by Dr. Deepak Chopra, in Perfect Digestion. The key is to realize that what you are actually feeling (the emotion) will coincidentally be producing a physical response. For example, if you are feeling very nervous, your stomach may begin to rumble or ache, your mouth may feel dry or you may feel jittery. With cravings, the desire for what we BELIEVE we are missing/wanting may show up as a very physical sensation (anxiousness, sweet tooth, strong hunger pangs).

Get to know your own body’s homeostasis . This is your body’s baseline..where it feels perfectly wonderful. (consistently good weight, healthy appetite, minimal aches/pains/inflammation, strong immunity). When you truly get tuned into your body, you will soon become your own savant about knowing which craving is healthy versus unfounded (misdirected).

Cravings come in all shapes, forms and sizes. They are super good at fooling you sometimes too. If you truly crave a particular substance (which you know isn’t good for you), ask  yourself, “What do I really want? What am I really hungry for? ” Which taste (sweet, salty, sour, pungent, bitter, or astringent) am I missing from my diet currently? How am I feeling within? Secure? Loved? Valued? Purposeful? These questions will help you to identify the root of your craving.

And remember, when you  minimize the “excess” of most anything, the craving for it will diminish and eventually disappear. But also know that some cravings act as warning signs signaling to you that you may not be getting enough of a needed substance or feeling  (vitamin, mineral, taste, love, affection, validation). Be careful not to fill your need for love, affection or human touch with food. This will only create another unwanted (substitution) pattern and craving!

Cravings (for food/tastes) will come and go. Dont beat yourself up if you crater to them once in awhile. No one is perfect. We are not meant to be. Give yourself a pat on the back and a lot of love for learning more about your body, your desires and for working hard to make good, healthy choices.

Now excuse me please while I make some fresh popcorn. I’ve got a craving…   ;)

Wishing you healthy cravings in all of their goodness! xoxoxxo

~Pam~

 

The Healthy “In” of Intimacy!

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What do women want more than sex? Seriously? Did I hear someone whisper chocolate? What about wine? Heck, did I hear a shout out for ice cream with a peanut butter brownie, caramel topping and whipped cream? Wrong. Wrong and wrong again.

Women like sex. We ARE sexual beings. But we are SENSUAL beings too. We were born to entice, engage, seduce, and endear in preparation to produce offspring. Yep. Thats our biology and physiology. Lets face it, we were physically structured to procreate and that primordial instinct still resides within all of us, some more than others. Continue reading

Blue Zones: Why Lifestyle Matters to Your Health

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A good friend said to me, “We all have a certain number of ticks/beats to our heart. A finite number.” Yes. Agreed. But what IS that number? At what age will your heart cease to beat? Only God/the Universe know those answers. So why do some people live to be 100+ and others pass much younger? Do we really have an effect on that finite number of our heartbeats? I believe that “magic” number is predetermined. HOWEVER, we have so much ability to live out those years in the best way possible. We have the power to determine if we will live those years in a healthy state or with chronic illness and disease. We have the power to choose HOW those years will be lived as long as we become accountable for our own health and wellness. We need to become more proactive versus reactive with regard to our own wellness.

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Divorce, Single Dads and Making It All Healthier!

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Divorce takes its toll on everyone: moms, dads and kids (especially). Emotions tend to fly high and kids, particularly, feel uncertainty and lack of control. Divorcing parents are caught in the bubble of emotions of hurt, anger, confusion, fear and sometimes despair.
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Clean Your Colon and Get Healthier!

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Awww….those dreaded butterflies in your stomach, sour stomach, stomach ache. OUCH! Sometimes that awful feeling doesn’t even require food…your stomach may just ache in anticipation of an upcoming event or a stressful situation you are experiencing. While many doctors will suggest taking an anti gas or calcium carbonate medication, oftentimes, that solution may resolve your immediate symptoms, but actually make matters worse in the long run. Even long term use of laxatives will eventually cause your body function improperly.

Release Negative Emotions and Improve Your Health!

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Songs, movies, stories and life experiences make us laugh, cry and everything in between. Why? Because they have a unique way of evoking emotion within us. While positive emotions (such as happiness, joy, love, serenity, pride, and gratitude) make us feel blissful and wonderful, bottled up negative emotions do the opposite. According to Ayurveda,the 5,000 year old holistic Hindu discipline of health and wellness, unreleased negative emotions also produce ama and set us up for DIS-ease and chronic illness.

Improving the Health of Adult-Teen Relationships

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We were all adolescents/teens at one time. Can you think back to that time in your life? Did you sometimes feel as if your parents just didn’t “get” you? Did you also sometimes feel like your parents didn’t know a whole heck of a lot? Welcome to the world of teens all over again! But this time, YOU are not the teen…you are the ADULT with teens of your own, or with teen nieces/nephews/grand kids or perhaps have friends with teens.

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Making Entrepreneurial Work Space Healthy!

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The ongoing signals your body perceives/receives about your environment can tremendously affect your overall health. The Chinese study of Feng Shui is the science of combing energy with space to achieve optimal health and good fortune. If you are an entrepreneur or work in a small business which you are dedicated to growing, consider these ideas to enhance your work space creativity, productivity and overall pleasure of what you are creating.  My friend and professional architect and interior designer, Lenore Weiss, will intrigue you with some simple, yet important, ways to make the most of your work space, large or small:

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Welcome…So Glad You Are Here!

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I am so excited to welcome you to  PassionatelyPam.com.

So, what’s Pam passionate about?

Well, I am passionate about many things, but my “sweet spot” is health and wellness.

The world of health and wellness is forever changing, and I am passionate about the exciting fusion of cutting edge AND ancient holistic wellness disciplines that can catapult your health from GOOD to BETTER to VIBRANT!

I invite you to Wake Up Your Health! Challenge yourself to pursue your Health in a whole new way!

Why? Because I want you to SHINE with great health and energy and help you become unstoppable in all that you want to accomplish and create in your life.

This blog is just the beginning. I’ll be expanding this into a full website with resources to help you as you make your journey toward vibrant health.

So join me on this journey…because it’s going to be FUN!